Could We Like Someone Without Knowing Exactly Why We Do?
Melissa asked me what I liked about “my ex's personality”. I didn’t know what to say. Then she added, “Could he make you a better person?” “Actually, his break-up with me pushed me to work on myself.” I instantly replied. I kept thinking of that question for a couple of days and then I had a chat with her again about it. “I can’t find anything I liked about him. Saying that he was nice and cool is a very broad characteristic. Many people are nice and cool but when we get to know them deeply, we find out that they are not the same as we thought. I don’t know whether I can’t find an answer because I want to hate him so my mind prohibits me from seeing the good sides of his character or if it is just the fact that I didn’t like him.” The things I managed to mention to her didn’t have anything to do with his personality. It was about the experiences I had with him which mostly were first-time ones. Before knowing him, I was roaming from one place to another without having a specific go